Tell Me When: All Stalkers Should Be Considered Unpredictable.

January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Despite ten years of outreach and activism, The National Center for Victims of Crime reports that over 6.6 million men and women are victims of stalking each year[1]; about half of these people are new victims.[2] This figure does not include children. Safe Horizon, “the largest victims’ services agency in the United States”[3] understands stalking as defined by the U.S. Department of Justice as “a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.”[4] Safe Horizon stresses that stalking behaviors include and are not unlimited to

  • “Repeated, unwanted, intrusive, and frightening communications, by phone, mail, and/or email
  • Following or laying in wait for a victim at places victims tend to frequently visit, including home, school, or work
  • Making direct or indirect threats to harm the victim or the victim’s children and family, friends, pets, and even co-workers
  • Damaging or threatening to damage a victim’s property Harassing a victim through the Internet, including email, social networking sites, and other sites”[5]

All stalkers should be considered unpredictable.” [6]

I became aware of National Stalking Month Awareness through author Stina Lidenblatt who is doing a blog hop to raise awareness. Instead of sharing a story—and I am not without my own as I suspect many of my friends and readers are—I created several word clouds from the Safe Horizon Stalking Fact Sheet to illustrate aspects about stalking.

Stalking 1

Women as well as men and children are victims of stalking.

Stalking 2

One of the most disturbing facts I learned is that many victims think if they ignore stalking behaviors, a stalker will lose interest and leave their targets alone, when in fact, behaviors escalate.

Stalking 4

Protect yourself and trust your intuition. Tell others. Get help.

Tell Me When

Lindenblatt’s debut novel, Tell Me When, is a New Adult Contemporary Romance and releases next week on January 20th. Lindenblatt’s novel deals with stalking and kidnapping and the effects her survivor-victim main character struggles to overcome. I’m grateful to Lindenblatt’s blog hop for the opportunity to learn more about stalking and to get the word out. I’m also looking forward to reading Tell Me WhenAmber Scott should be enjoying life as a college freshman. She should be pursuing her dream of becoming a veterinarian. She should be working hard to make sense of her precalculus math class.

She shouldn’t be waking up her college roommate with screaming nightmares. She shouldn’t be flashing back, reliving the three weeks of hell she barely survived last year. And she definitely shouldn’t be spending time with sexy player Marcus Reid.

But engineering student Marcus is the only one keeping Amber from failing her math course, so she grudgingly lets him into her life. She never expects the king of hookups will share his painful past. Or that she’ll tell him her secrets in return, opening up and trusting him in a way she thought she’d never be able to again.

When their fragile future together is threatened by a stalker Amber thought was locked away for good, Marcus is determined to protect her–and Amber is determined to protect Marcus…even if that means pushing him away.


Have you ever been a victim of stalking? If you wish to share your story, please feel free to use the anonymous comment feature. If you want to use social media to raise awareness, refer to the National Stalking Awareness Month 31 Days of Social Media PDF or create your own post. When you tweet, add #NSAM!

Please seek out the following organizations for extensive information, resources and help:

[1] The National Center for Victims Crime, Stalking Fact Sheet, http://www.victimsofcrime.org/docs/src/stalking-fact-sheet_english.pdf?sfvrsn=4 accessed 01/17/2014.

[2] Safe Horizon, Facts About Stalking, http://www.safehorizon.org/index/get-help-8/stalking-36/facts-about-stalking-71.html accessed 01/17/2014.

[3] Safe Horizon, About Us http://www.safehorizon.org/index/about-us-1.html accessed 01/17/2014.

[4] Safe, Facts.

[5] Ibid.

[6] Ibid.

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4 thoughts on “Tell Me When: All Stalkers Should Be Considered Unpredictable.

    1. Thanks so much, Stina! It’s my pleasure. I had no idea it was National Stalking Awareness Month until I learned about it through your upcoming book. Please feel free to distribute the word clouds. If they can help do the work of Safe Horizons and raise awareness, all the better. Best wishes and heaps of luck on the debut release of Tell Me When. And, Congratulations!

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  1. I found your site, stopped, because you have my middle and last name. I am trying to hold on but slipping. My stalking has been going on for too long. Earlier when it started, I could seem to get no one in authority, at least of all police, to do anything about it. what hurts most is that my fiance SEES this things, this neighbor stalking me has done over the years. I think he’s scared too, he’s 64 and I am 48. Black, living in a neighborhood surrounded by crime and ghetto kids with no conscious. For me the neighbor next door started stalking me after repeated unsolicited sexual advances from him which I refused. He’s 78 and married. Don’t tell me that old people can’t be ruthless. Sometimes I don’t know how I can wake up every morning. It’s so complicated, intrinsic and aweful it’s exhausting to retell it, to relive it. This man and his family have tried to destroy me, everything from phonecalls/ emails/ hunting me on social media (I am hidden on facebook now), also as things progressed I found out this bastard is a retired electrical engineer. We live in semi-detached homes. (houses connected on one side) I found out HOW this bastard seem to know my every move before I made it. He has been eavesdropping on me. Through the 5 years this man has tapped my landline and cellphone still does, he had a tree on my property removed after he had his grandkids poisoned it. He’s tampered/s with delivery of postal mail. Sometimes I find emails in my inbox with the subject title directly linked to a conversation me and my fiance had in our car or in the house. 3 years ago they broke my fence, my stalker has used his connections with his family police friends and used them to stalk and harass me over and over. Going so far as to follow me from MD DC and VA. All the places I go he knows, it’s been so long it’s like I am a pet project, it’s so insidious. He’s tapped into my electricity so my bill is always crazy. Then his adult grandsons got in on the stalking, including their friends until it became gang stalking upon me. Before I had a security system, they were coming into the house and still do. One day I was downstairs and before bed I set my alarm. At 3am I woke up, something just woke me up. Upon arriving downstairs I noticed my security alarm was off. I decided to do a test, randomly one night I put my video recorder on the alarm system. Later that morning after I reviewed the tape, to my horror you clearly see the alarm turn itself off, an hour later it came back on.
    Calling my security company I explained to them, i think my alarm is faulty. To my shock the security company was too lazy to even investigate further, offering excuses and upgrades. We have had our car GPS tracked. Lately the most recent incident, one of them is still coming into the house. I recently had surgery to my head, so around the house mobility is limited. I went down stairs after my fiance left for diaylsis at 5am that morning. It was around 8am I guess. anyway in the kitchen I found this dried out dead mouse on my kitchen counter. It was his way of letting me know they can get in anytime they like. There is too much more that can not be told, too exhausting. I have one cat now, but through the course of the years I have 1 now. I had another cat that I believe they kicked to death. I don’t have any help or resources, my fiance feels its best not to make a big stink. This family has even stepped it up and now several of us in the neighborhood are targeted. I even had my new car shot at. then it happened to other neighbors, that was last month, I bought a video surveillance camera, it did little to effect change. I think what hurts most is that I have no privacy from these people at all. I see them day in and out, some days they harass me strong, others light. It’s sick to say but I’m getting use to it but I am so angry. I have three journals of mostly every incident when it occurs. It never seems to impress my local police. I even have license plate numbers of the cars that have followed/ or still do follow us sometimes, including law enforcement. I had to find a way to cope living like this. although no consolation, I figured at least when the police are following me, that asshole or his grandsons can’t harass and follow. The lesser of 2 evils. As a result of this stressful way of being I find myself ill now. I developed some weird throat condition and ended up having spinal fusion done. Metal rods in my neck for life to support my spine. every-time I try to find help it slips away. I know one of his grandsons has it bad for me, either he’ll set me up to get shot at this time and not my car, or ……Ironic thing is, police caught my stalking neighbors 24 year old grandson in a car with a loaded gun, very next day after someone had driven through our neighborhood firing at all the cars.
    They couldn’t tie that bastard to the gun in his car and after a few days let him go. Just like that. several neighbors who are now also being targeted tell me they have started getting weird phone calls, caller ID saying 0000000000 and stuff like that. The most constant thing this mans adult grandsons do is hangout on this block, drink smoke weed and they blast their music so loud. The most we have gotten from police is a patrol through or they park for awhile and run them away. But nothing seems to deter them, it just goes on and somethings going to break. Sunday we are suppose to be having a community meeting at the local police station, about these out of jail out of control adults grandsons of my stalker, taking over the neighborhood. Those of us targeted don’t feel good about it. although it was little comfort to learn that other neighbors were angrier than me at this man and his family. It feels no better belonging in this kind of group. Those neighbors that are strong enough to try, are standing up for ourselves hoping to find peace to this very big problem. Me, I live next door to this monster,

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    1. I apologize for not responding sooner. I did not see this comment. Your situation is a horrible one. I’ve inquired with some people about what do to. The only thing any of the knowledgeable people who have any kind of experience with a glimmer of what you’re dealing with have suggested going to the FBI and contacting the Department of Justice. When local law enforcement is no help or is corrupt and part of the harassment, the recourse is to only go higher up the chain of command. You have my sympathy and horror as well as prayer for safekeeping and peace for what you endure. Be well and go with God.

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